Breaking the Silence

Film and discussion

Lesbian History Group, London, 24 May, 2025
Topic : Breaking the Silence – film.

Guest Speaker: Melanie Chait

Breaking the Silence” (1984) directed by Melanie Chait, is a documentary highlighting the struggles of lesbian mothers in the UK in the 1970s/80s. It details the experiences faced and the custody battles fought when women left their husbands, as judges considered them unfit mothers because of their sexuality. The film was groundbreaking in its portrayal of the experience of lesbian mothers and led to increased awareness of the discrimination against them.

Melanie Chait has made award winning social justice documentaries in countries around the world for the last 40+ years

Note: Could Melanie Chait have feedback on the film? If there are lesbian mothers or grown children of lesbian mothers, she would love to hear from you, at email – kboschind@gmail.com

Discussion following the screening.

Research referred to in discussion:

  • Lesbian Mothers’ Legal Handbook.
    Rights of Women Lesbian Custody Group.
    Women’s Press. 1986.
    ISBN: 0704339889, 9780704339880
    Available here

  • Valued Families: Lesbian Mothers’ Legal Handbook.
    Lynne Harne and Rights of Women.
    Womens’ Press. 1997.
    ISBN: 9780704345171
    Available here

Lesbian History Group would like to thank MaryM for videoing the talk and creating this web page.

What happened? Who Changed?

The Metamorphosis of The Wild and Woolly (and Awful) Lesbian into
An Ordinary Woman (in some places, sometimes)

Talk and Discussion
Lesbian History Group, London 1 March 2025

Suniti Namjoshi

Suniti grew up in India, worked in Canada and has lived in a small village on the Devon-Dorset border with Gillian Hanscombe for many years. She says that if you live long enough, you can give a quarter of a century to each continent.

Her books include Feminist Fables, Goja, Suki (a memoir about her beloved cat) and the most recent O Sister Swallow (an elegy for her sister).

All these are available from Spinifex. Matriarchs, Cows and Epic Villains will be published in March 2025 by Zubaan and Penguin, India.


Second Wave Lesbian Feminists wanted to change the world, fight the patriarchy and counter the prevalent inimical attitudes towards lesbians and women in general. We each used what skills we had. I was a fabulist, so I was concerned with language. I still am.

The world changed; and instead of being outsiders, we were more or less normalised, at least in some places, sometimes. The battle seemed to fizzle out; but it left us feeling uneasy. There were still problems, but perhaps things weren’t so bad.

Today when I look at the state of world, that uneasiness has turned into appalled dismay. Bear with me then, if I do not now offer a chronological account. Though we tread the time track in a straight line, memory is simultaneous, and what we thought then impinges on what we think now.


Transcript of Suniti’s Talk

Video Highlights

Intro: What do we do now?
It doesn’t feel like we won!
Battle seemed to fizzle out
Beauty & the Beast
The Digital Revolution
Who can be heard?
Freedom of Speech
Hypocritical

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A Taster of Suniti’s Work

Lesbian History Group would like to thank MaryM for videoing the talk and creating this web page.

Classic lesbian books that became films

Two classic lesbian novels were published in the 1980s, and were also filmed. One was initially called The Price of Salt and was actually written by Patricia Highsmith who also wrote mainstream thrillers. The book was republished in 1984 under the name of Claire Morgan.

The film made about this novel was renamed Carol and some changes were made about Carol’s partner Therese, making her a photographer rather than a theatrical set designer.

In the book, Carol lost custody of her daughter as her husband had employed a private detective who found out that she was having a lesbian relationship with her young lover Therese. The book actually reflected the lives of many lesbian mothers who were losing custody of their children in the UK. Carol was originally devasted by the loss of her daughter. However, in the end she decided to set up her own business and she and Therese ended up living together.  The book is excellently written and is a must read for younger lesbians.

The other classic book that involved a lesbian relationship was the Color Purpl’ by Alice Walker which was published in 1983. It won the Pulitzer Prize. Celie, one of the main characters in the book, discovers the love and support of women with Shug Avery, a singer. This book was also made into a wonderful film about black women’s experiences in the early 20th century. It was however resented by black men who did not like the way that they were portrayed. Brilliantly written, it is another must read for younger lesbians.

Much more recently there has been a revival of historic films which include lesbian relationships. One is the film Ammonite based on the story of Mary Anning, the discoverer of fossils in Dorset.  It stars Kate Winslet who has a romantic lesbian relationship with the geologist Charlotte Murchison. Another is a French film called Portrait of a lady on fire’ and is set in the 18th century. It tells the story of a lesbian relationship between a young woman aristocrat and a lesbian painter. 

Launch of ‘Grace and Marigold’

”Grace and Marigold’ was launched by Elaine Hutton and Lynne Harne — long-term UK-based lesbian activists currently running the Lesbian Rights Alliance and the Lesbian History Group. This launch took place online on on 27 August 2024. The following is a description of the book, which is published by Spinifex Press. You can watch the launch by clicking the link at the end of the description.

It’s 1974 when 20-year-old Grace arrives in London determined to shrug off her Australian past and reinvent herself. While embracing her new life in the Free Republic of Beltonia, a street of communal squats, she’s haunted by the unbearable thought that she might be a lesbian – a fate she considers almost worse than death. Before long, she falls (secretly) in love with Marigold, upper class, enigmatic and avowedly straight. When Marigold mysteriously disappears without a trace, the search for her leads Grace to a life-changing epiphany.

Evoking the spirit of 1970s London through the world of squatting and political protests, street parties, encounter groups and gurus, and the mayhem of a rackety publishing outfit where Grace gets a job, Grace and Marigold is both witty and moving in its exploration of the inner turmoil, and ultimate liberation of a young woman’s journey to self-acceptance. 

Mira Robertson’s debut novel, The Unexpected Education of Emily Dean was published in 2018. Her short stories have won prizes and have appeared in various literary magazines and journals. Her screenwriting credits, written with director Ana Kokkinos, include the award-winning films Only the Brave and Head On. Mira lives in Melbourne.

Coming out stories and lesbian thrillers


Saturday, March 2nd, 2024
In this session we will discuss lesbian fiction drawn from different categories.

Coming Out stories – Elaine Hutton will talk about some Coming Out stories, their significance, and how they evolved over time as the Women’s Liberation Movement took hold. e.g. All That False Instruction, 1975, by Kerryn Higgs/Elizabeth Riley; Rubyfruit Jungle, 1973, by Rita Mae Brown; Relatively Norma, 1985, by Anna Livia.

Lynne Harne will  talk about two lesbian thrillers which challenge the stereotypes of femininity, Hen’s Teeth, 1996, and Stronger than Death, 1999, by Manda Scott.

Coming Out Stories

Rubyfruit Jungle, 1973, and All That False Instruction, 1975, are similar in some ways and very different in others. Both are first novels, young women looking back on their lives from very early childhood to early adulthood. They are both written on the brink of the Women’s Liberation Movement, when neither character had any support for their position, so it’s left to the reader to imagine how they will develop. But the first person perspective in both makes their stories very personal and we feel we’re sharing their experiences.

Rubyfruit Jungle
Molly Bolt is a lively, non-conforming youngster from the beginning. At the age of 11, she proclaims ‘I don’t care whether [people] like me or not. Everybody’s stupid, that’s what I think. I care if I like me, that’s what I truly care about.’(p 31) she tells her cousin Leroy and she maintains this confidence throughout the book. She discovers sex with girls early on, aged 11, and goes on to many more encounters, all positive. She grows up energetic and rough, handy with her fists, and rejects femininity in clothing and female roles, and, to the despair of her adoptive mother Carrie, refuses to know her place. She reminds me of Scout in To Kill a Mockingbird.

She’s not immune to social pressures however, but rises above them. Leroy has been her childhood companion, and they’ve had sex together. ‘Leroy never did get to be an accomplished kisser’, she discovers early, but as she starts to excel academically, ‘Leroy was getting more and more like any other redneck. It got to the point where he thought he owned me, just because we’d do it every now and then’. When she can ride his new motorbike better than he can he ‘tells her to shove off and that she’s ‘really a dyke’. (p 64)

In 1970, Rita Mae Brown was part of the group of women, the Radicalesbians, who staged a demonstration at the NOW conference which had excluded lesbians from the programme. They cut the lights, then turned them on to reveal the lesbians scattered throughout the audience, wearing Lavender Menace purple t-shirts, waving posters proclaiming : “TAKE A LESBIAN TO LUNCH!” “SUPERDYKE LOVES YOU!” “THE WOMEN’S MOVEMENT IS A LESBIAN PLOT!” . The group then distributed a 10-page, collectively written manifesto entitled “The Woman-Identified Woman,” with its famous opening line, “A lesbian is the rage of all women condensed to the point of explosion.”

Brown then co-founded The Furies, a lesbian feminist separatist commune, and it was against this background that Rubyfruit Jungle was eventually published in 1973, after being turned down by major publishing houses, by a small independent feminist press, Daughters Inc. run by oil heiress June Arnold (author of Sister Gin)

Brown’s active lesbian background translates into fictional form to some extent with this novel. Men, when they feature, do not come out well, shown to be intellectually inferior and no good in bed, and potentially dangerous. On sex with men – ‘…they all work the same show. Some are better at it than others but it’s boring once you know what women are like.’ (p 174)

And the film that drew the most applause on their project night ‘was a gang rape…with half the cast dressed as Martians , the other half, as humans. All the men mumbled about what a profound racial statement it was.’ (p 213). And ‘the guy who made the Martian rape went right into CBS as an assistant director for a children’s program. CBS was full up, they told me.’ (p 215) [when Molly applied for a job after graduation].

Isolation and difficulty for lesbians also features. Her friendship threesome with two other women at high school implodes when she gets together with one of them. Molly ends up furiously rejecting them both because of their reactions. Carolyn denies she’s a lesbian, as she’s ‘very feminine’, unlike Molly, Connie announces that she can’t be Molly’s friend anymore as she’d ‘be nervous and wonder if you’re going to rape me or something’. (p 94)

All that False Instruction.
This was published first under a pseudonym, Elizabeth Riley. Kerryn Higgs, her actual name, wrote a chapter in Not Dead Yet, 2021, Origins, where she stated:


I grew up in the homophobic Australia of the 1950s – .. It had me subdued, even though it had not compelled me to marry and begin a life of regret and remorse. Though the counterculture gave a certain amount of relief, … before the Women’s Movement I lived in a state of suppressed fear.

This, in a way, is a summary of the novel, though the self-deprecatory, colloquial and lively language belies that description.

Like Rubyfruit Jungle, this novel is a fictional portrayal of feminist theory at the time – the realisation that the 1960s weren’t freedom for women, the discovery of the clitoral orgasm – she discovers it by accident, when a lover’s nipple brushes her clitoris, (p 75); the critique of male behaviour. What is really interesting is that Kerryn Higgs came to these realisations on her own, though in the three years before the book was finally published she inserted an end scene about the women’s movement which was just taking off. More of this later.

Maureen Craig’s upbringing is not dissimilar to Molly Bolt’s, except that she is isolated and unloved (except for her Grandmother) in her turbulent and confrontational rural family, where her authoritarian mother favours her younger brother, Ken, blaming and punishing her for his misdeeds. Like Molly, she escapes by excelling academically. Unlike Molly, Maureen’s lesbian encounters at university are at first awkward, fumbling, embarrassed (p 47), ‘floral pyjamas and huge breasts under flannelette’ (p 46), and terrified of being found out, but her last relationship is emotionally and physically liberating. However, with no WLM to sustain them, lesbianism is seen as unacceptable, dirty, slimy…the other young women she encounters all believe firmly, like Molly’s friend Carolyn, that ‘they’ll need men in the end.’

The novel’s strength is that it charts unflinchingly, with humour at times and frustration and sadness at others, Maureen’s journey towards being herself, and her never giving up hope that she’ll find a loving lesbian relationship, despite betrayals, setbacks, and ostracism. The limitations of Melbourne life are laid bare, in that we see Maureen escaping femininity in the only way available to her, as did other educated young Australian women, entering the masculine world, drinking heavily every night, hanging out with the blokes, swearing (p 199). She buys an old Holden and learns to service it, rejecting male help, and with her German friend Inga, (who is very critical of Australian men) gets a job on boats, abalone fishing at Mallacoota.

She has a series of encounters with men, in an effort to ‘get used to heterosexuality,’ and become normal. However, it is here her critique of patriarchy is most scathing, as well as comic, as she describes male behaviour. In all her encounters with men, Maureen remains detached and silently critical, and increasingly furious, as the men fulfil their own needs, and ignore hers. The writing is explicit – ‘Throat paralysed, as he moves, inwards like a cannonball, jarring guts’ (p 206); ‘Just lie against me, I want to say. It’s not all over for me. Let me come. Don’t leave this anger to breed. …If only he saw that I have needs like his own’…(p 230)

Unlike Rita Mae Brown, Kerryn Higgs was not a feminist activist. She won a fellowship to write her novel – on the basis of the first two chapters. She wrote most of it while in London in 1971-2, delivered the manuscript to Angus & Robertson, and returned to Melbourne. When she had left Australia she had had no contact with feminism at all, and observes that when she read The Female Eunuch in 1972, she was struck how similar Greer’s themes were to her own, though she adds, unlike herself, GG was aware of her context while she was not.

In her 2 years in London, she came across feminists, and when she returned home, remained involved. That is when she added (at editorial stage) an incident where she meets an American ‘out and proud’ lesbian feminist, Jody, who informs her that she lives in a women’s household, and that lesbianism isn’t only about sex, but politics. The words resonate with Maureen, though she doesn’t understand their significance at that point.

She showed ATFI (still unpublished) to her new friends, ‘who subjected it to a feminist fine toothcomb, where any reference that might be interpreted as anti-woman was identified and pointed out to me.’

In September, 1974, she showed the proofs (very late in the day) to her parents. Her mother was very upset, cried for 24 hours, and threatened to sue if it was published, as she saw herself as Lotty. Whether the character was based on her mother we don’t know.

After frantic negotiations with the publisher, the novel was published under the name Elizabeth Riley and was re-sited from Melbourne to Sydney. A&R were unable to publicise or launch with the author, who now admits she was relieved as ‘I had been imprinted, as was Maureen Craig, with the torture of other people’s ostracism and scorn.’ So although the book sank into obscurity, at the time it was noticed and reviewed, and had a large readership by word of mouth from the new active WLM. Finally, an American author found it by chance second-hand in 1989, and promoted it, met Kerryn by writing to Spinifex who put them in touch, and it finally led it to being reprinted. The information above is in the Spinifex reprint.

Relatively Norma
Nearly 10 years later, and well into the WLM, we are shown a very different kind of Coming Out. Minnie has gone to Perth, Western Australia, to visit her family, but she is already, unlike the characters in the first two novels, an established lesbian feminist. Her attempts to Come Out to her mother are comic, especially as her mother is obviously aware she’s a lesbian before she arrives, though she hopes she might become heterosexual, or ‘normal’ –

Beryl was thinking how nice it was to have little Minnie home again and why didn’t she stay in Perth and marry a tame Aussie. Perhaps if she introduced her to lovely John from work…(p 18)

But Beryl escapes motherhood and servitude at the end, making a public speech demanding Mother’s Liberation. Her daughters are left bereft ‘But mum, you can’t divorce your children.’

Beryl was soaring into the air.
-Minnie fixes me with her honesty, and confesses like The Ancient Mariner at every Opportunity: she’s gay. I’m pleased for her, I’m happy for her, but when I went away the whole day, she didn’t even notice I’d gone.
Beryl was zooming up to the ceiling.
-…I’m handing in my resignation, I’m nobody’s mother any more. (p 177)

So this is a whole different take on mothers, as Beryl is not discontented, bullying and sniping, but intent on having A Life of Her Own.

Relevance today
Brown and Higgs use their character’s mother’s marriages to point out the limitations of heterosexuality and femininity. The daughters reject their mothers’ values, rebel, and are ultimately rejected, especially when their lesbianism becomes known. But Relatively Norma was published when there were thriving lesbian/feminist publishing houses. Also, we were no longer on the cusp of feminism. Consciousness raising groups, and discussion among feminists, were common, and many women, as a result, had developed more sympathy for their mothers, and roles they had been forced into. It is notable that the first two novels, before the input of feminism, brought in sympathy for their mothers at the end. Kerryn Higgs does say she added the reconciliation with her mother at the editorial stage, ‘Maureen experiences a certain understanding for her mother…during 1973, in the new era of consciousness raising.’ And Molly Bolt makes a film of her mother talking about her life, for her final project at film school. Anna Livia goes further, in assigning Minnie’s mother a pivotal role in her novel, where she is not a drudge, or an upholder of heterosexual norms, but is determined to find herself and have a life of her own.

Rubyfruit Jungle is relevant today, in that it is funny, defiant, non-conforming – the heroine is fully self-determining from the very beginning. ATFI is relevant in another way. It is quite remarkable how Higgs writes the sex scenes with women – not pornographic, not romanticised, but very true to life in a way that resonates with lesbian experience. It’s clear also that friendship and intellectual stimulation is an integral part of the relationships. And her encounters with men echo what women were exploring – the lack of satisfaction with sex, the way men ignored women’s needs, how women were reticent about putting their own desires forward. She provides for us a stark contrast between heterosexual and lesbian sex. (Some male critics hated the book and talked of the feminist mafia when it was first published). It is also relevant in showing how a conformist society, without the presence of feminism, exerts such a powerful straightjacket on young women who aspire to be different, and in many cases, wrecks their lives or stops them from becoming fully themselves. Shades of today, and why it’s so important to get to young women and stop the grooming into the transgender cult. The novel is, in turn, funny, sad, anger making, but mainly, truthful of lesbian experience, and I highly recommend it.

Brown, Rita Mae, Rubyfruit Jungle (1973), Vintage Classics, 2015
Higgs, Kerryn, All that False Instruction (1975, Angus & Robertson), Spinifex Press, 2001
Livia, Anna, Relatively Norma, Onlywomen Press, 1982

Copyright © Elaine Hutton 2024

Lesbian thrillers

In second wave lesbian feminism there were a number of novels published in
what was then known as ‘detective fiction’. Most of these books were written
by US writers, such as ‘Murder at the ‘Nightwood Bar’ (l987) by Katherine V
Forrest, and ‘She Came in a Flash’ (1988) by Mary Wings. In the UK there were
some early detective novels written by Val McDermid whose main character
was an investigative journalist working in Glasgow.

However, more recently lesbian thrillers have achieved fame and awards.
These are books written by Manda Scott and include Hen’s Teeth’ and ‘Stronger than Death.’ Hen’s Teeth was first published in l996 by Women’s Press and then in 2005 by Headline in paperback. Stronger than Death was published in 1999 by Headline.

Some background on Manda Scott.
Manda Scott trained as a Vet and originally lived in Glasgow. However, in both
of these books she demonstrates a good understanding of being a hospital
medic. She was also a mountain climber and her knowledge of mountain
climbing is reflected in each book. Hen’s Teeth was shortlisted for the Orange Prize and Stronger than Death for an Arts Council Prize in English Literature.
They are really brilliantly written and one of the main factors about them is
that they represent a lesbian community set in Glasgow where being lesbian is
seen as normal. They also reflect a strong lesbian network where most of the
lesbians know each other.

The 2 main characters in both these books are Kellen Stewart and Lee
Anderson. They are trained medics at the Glasgow Westenr Hospital although
Kellen has re-trained as a psycho therapist. Lee Anderson works in pathology
and undertakes post mortems. Kellen, herself is a part owner of a farm near
Glasgow that she purchased with her ex-lover, Bridget where they kept horses
and provided horse rides. This farm serves as one of the main settings.

Another key aspect of these books is that they do not turn to men for help as
they are skilled in manual trades. For example, they are able to change locks
and undertake their own building work, where necessary.

Both are focused on finding out about the murders. These include the murder
of Bridget, Kellen’s ex-lover in Hen’s Teeth, as well as that of Bridget’s brother,
who had his own lab and was a scientist. In the second novel Stronger than
Death
, there is a series of murders and Lee, herself becomes a police suspect.
But neither Lee nor Kellen trust the police and are set on identifying the
murderers themselves. Their skills in rock climbing come in useful in resolving
the murders.

Second Wave Lesbian Feminist Fiction

Author Elaine Hutton (copyright)

Lesbian fiction flourished in the 1970s to early 1990s, due to the proliferation of feminist publishers. Onlywomen Press, run entirely by lesbians, started in 1974. The Press operated with a collective, of which I was a member for a short time. Virago started in 1973, followed by Women’s Press, 1978, and Sheba in 1980.

Lesbian Feminist History

The development of lesbian feminist community, politics and culture.

The following talks were presented at Filia, October, 2023

Talk 1 Lynne Harne. Introduction and background to the development of second wave lesbian feminism.

Talk 2 Lynn Alderson. Creation of SisterWrite book shop.

Talk 3 Rosemary Schonfeld. Creation of the band Ova and Lesbian Feminist music

Talk 4 Elaine Hutton. Lesbian feminist fiction.

Talk 5 Tess Joseph. The creation of the Camden Lesbian Centre and Black Lesbian group.

Talk 6 Jenny Willmott. Scottish Lesbians on the problems with the Scottish Lesbian Feminist Archive.

Camden Lesbian Centre & Black Lesbians Group

The Camden Lesbian Project was started in the early 1980s. The aim was to have a centre for lesbians only. When it was finally created together with the Black Lesbian Group, it became the only centre for lesbians in the whole country.

It managed to obtain funding for the centre from Camden Council and had a management committee which was multi-ethnic and included lesbians with disabilities. It provided a safe space for lesbians from many different backgrounds to meet up and enjoy lesbian gatherings.

These included holding fund raising events for different projects (then known as benefits) and organising protests and lesbian strength marches